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Being a parent is a role that demands boundless love, patience, and resilience. For single parents, this journey becomes even more challenging as they take on the responsibilities of both parenting and providing for their children alone. In the midst of this demanding role, it's crucial for single parents to prioritize self-care. Here’s why self-care is not just a luxury, but a necessity for single parents.

1. Physical Well-being: Single parents often juggle multiple tasks throughout the day, from managing household chores to attending work and caring for their children. Neglecting physical health can lead to burnout and long-term health issues. Taking time for exercise, nutritious meals, and adequate rest is vital to sustain the demanding lifestyle of a single parent.

2. Emotional Resilience: Raising children solo can sometimes feel overwhelming and emotionally draining. Self-care activities like meditation, journaling, or seeking therapy can provide essential emotional support. It’s important for single parents to acknowledge their feelings and seek healthy outlets to manage stress and prevent emotional exhaustion.

3. Role Modeling for Children: Children learn by observing their parents. When single parents prioritize self-care, they demonstrate the importance of self-respect and well-being. This sets a valuable example for their children, teaching them healthy habits and the significance of balance in life.

4. Preventing Burnout: Constantly being “on” without breaks can lead to burnout. Single parents are often under immense pressure to excel both at work and home. Taking regular breaks, pursuing hobbies, or spending time with supportive friends can help prevent burnout and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

5. Enhanced Mental Clarity: Self-care activities such as mindfulness or engaging in hobbies can boost mental clarity and creativity. This can be particularly beneficial for single parents who need to make important decisions and manage various aspects of their lives efficiently.

6. Strengthening Support Networks: Single parents may feel isolated at times. Prioritizing self-care can involve reaching out to friends, family, or support groups. Building a strong network of support can provide practical help and emotional reassurance.

7. Guilt-Free Time: Single parents often struggle with guilt when taking time for themselves. However, self-care is not selfish—it's necessary for overall well-being. Embracing self-care means recognizing personal needs and honoring oneself without guilt.

8. Renewed Energy and Motivation: Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment can reignite passion and motivation. Whether it's pursuing a hobby, reading, or simply enjoying quiet moments, self-care can renew energy levels and foster a positive mindset.

The journey of single parenthood is undoubtedly challenging, but it’s important for single parents to remember that they deserve care and attention too. Prioritizing self-care isn’t an indulgence—it’s a vital investment in physical health, emotional well-being, and overall resilience. By taking time to nurture themselves, single parents can navigate their roles more effectively and lead healthier, happier lives for themselves and their children. So, to all the single parents out there: make self-care a priority and embrace the power of nurturing your own well-being alongside your responsibilities. You deserve it!

The Vital Importance of Self-Care for Single Parents

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There's a unique and undeniable allure to the ocean—a vast expanse of shifting blues and greens that stretches as far as the eye can see. For many, myself included, being by the ocean isn't just a recreational activity; it's a profound form of self-care and rejuvenation. The therapeutic benefits of the sea have been recognized for centuries, and modern science continues to unveil the profound impact of coastal environments on our mental and physical well-being.

Imagine standing on a sandy shore, feeling the gentle caress of sea breeze against your skin and listening to the rhythmic melody of waves crashing onto the beach. The ocean offers a natural escape from the hustle and bustle of daily life. Its vastness puts our everyday concerns into perspective, reminding us of the greater forces at play in the world. This perspective shift alone can be incredibly calming and grounding.

One of the most enchanting aspects of being by the ocean is the soothing sound of waves. Research suggests that the rhythmic noise of ocean waves alters the brain's wave patterns, inducing a deeply relaxed state similar to meditation. This phenomenon, known as 'blue mind,' has been associated with reduced stress and anxiety levels.

Coastal air is charged with negative ions, which are believed to increase levels of serotonin, the neurotransmitter associated with mood and stress regulation. Breathing in this ocean air can leave you feeling invigorated and refreshed, clearing your mind and revitalizing your body.

The beach offers a natural playground for physical activity. Whether it's taking a leisurely stroll along the shore, swimming in the saltwater, or simply lounging under the sun, the beach encourages movement and outdoor engagement. Physical activity releases endorphins, promoting a sense of well-being and contentment.

The ocean's vastness and beauty naturally encourage mindfulness. Sitting by the water's edge and observing the ebb and flow of the tides can be meditative, fostering introspection and self-reflection. Many find that this peaceful setting allows for a deeper connection with oneself and the world around them.

There's something inherently therapeutic about watching the ocean waves relentlessly eroding the coastline. It's a poignant reminder of the impermanence of life and the futility of holding onto our worries too tightly. By the sea, we are encouraged to let go—of stress, of expectations, of burdens.



The Healing Power of the Ocean: Embracing Self-Care by the Sea

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Visit Regularly: If possible, incorporate regular trips to the ocean into your self-care routine.

Disconnect: Use this time as an opportunity to disconnect from digital distractions and truly immerse yourself in the present moment.

Engage Your Senses: Take in the sights, sounds, and smells of the ocean. Let them wash over you.

Practice Mindfulness: Use this serene setting to practice mindfulness and deep breathing exercises.

Be Grateful: Take a moment to appreciate the beauty and wonder of the ocean. Gratitude can amplify the positive effects of your experience.

In a world that often demands so much of us, the ocean stands as a timeless sanctuary—an elemental source of solace and renewal. 

Embrace its healing embrace, and let its vastness remind you of your own boundless potential for inner peace and well-being.

Practical Tips for Embracing Oceanic Self-Care

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I forget how much I love live music until I am at a show. 
There is something about live music-the energy-the shared enjoyment of the crowd-the interaction with the musicians that makes it so good.  
Every time you find something that makes you feel that good energy write it down on your list of self-care ideas.

Simple Self-Care Ideas

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I remember picking up a copy of Melody Beattie's Codependent No More 20 years ago, and while I refer to it all of the time now, back then I knew there was something for me in there but I needed something more simple.



When someone questioned whether or not they struggle with codependency, I often shared her quiz with my clients, but there were a few problems with it:



1. It has 250+ questions

2. We might have a different answer depending on different scenarios; if we are home, at work, with friends etc

3. The results can be overwhelming and make you feel like there is no way you can change these 250+ behaviors/thoughts/beliefs



So, I created this quick quiz for you to see if any of these inner thoughts/self-talk sound familiar to you. If they do, I have great news!  

1. The healing is simple-not always easy, but simple.

2. Focusing on one thing: healing yourself through self-care will take care of all 250+ behaviors, thoughts & beliefs.

3. Although everyone is different and there is no set amount of time it takes to heal, it is usually much quicker than you can imagine.

4. It really is possible.

5. Life after this healing is more peaceful and stable in every area of your life.

Am I Codependent?

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Have you ever been afraid of slowing down so much you’ll never start again?

This morning on the yoga mat, the practice started with a deep, restful, meditative pose. I was so relaxed with the hot temperature, my even breathing and my still body that I could feel myself start to fall asleep.

I panicked. I knew what was coming. How would I be able to get myself revved up enough to push myself the way I knew I would have to. I thought-what is wrong with this teacher-did she make a mistake and do the ending sequence first?

She knew what I was about to learn. That with rest, inner calm and intention we can push ourselves farther than on sheer adrenaline.

It was the most challenging, thought and body cleansing class I’ve taken to date.

When I hesitate to stop midday to meditate, for fear of not being able to start again, I will remember this experience.

When I delay a vacation, because I don’t want to break my momentum, I will remember this experience.

When I stop the chaos to take a deep breathe for a minute, I will remember this experience.


Are You Afraid to Slow Down?

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I like yours because you you start out and and where you you did a great job of you had us all captured in there of we were going to talk about all the cool things your kids were doing and then then it kind of changed and i lked that and i think the the TED talks where you you take somebody down one road and all of a sudden you just yank them in the other directIon and I think that's a a good good method that was really good yeah so how did you get involved with TEDX?

Ooriginally somebody sent me an application for it uh they knew what my son was doing what our family was doing at the time we had a non-profit and my kids were very involved in giving back and so I originally went in there to talk about that and I wanted my son to do but i actually wanted my son to do the talk at the time he was only about 10 years old and so I thought I would take the interview process do that for him just find out more information about what it actually was and what it would require and when I went to the the meeting to talk about my idea things changed really quickly.

As I told the story about what we were doing the table kind of turned and I ended up taking on the TED talk myself yeah and I really I really thank the woman who was at the table who recognized that that there was something that I needed to say and you know she kind of leaned across the table and grabbed my hand and she said you know you you need you have something to say there's something that you need to do here. She was my mentor through the process and she helped me put together my talk and really was a great guidance through the whole thing.

Like I  said a little bit earlier I loved your talk because you you your talk happened just like you're saying you know you you were focused on on the kids story and then you just switch and that that was a a good transition and uh really kind of that that was your your big hook you had us all in and then you really hooked us in and that was good.

That's how it happened in that meeting I was sitting there and I was telling them all the great things that the kids were doing and they all said don't you know this is amazing and they were so impressed and then I you know then the tears started to come and I said you know you have no idea you really have no idea what we're going through right now and so that's when it all came out and I am so thankful for that it was honestly one of the best experiences of my life it's one of the things that I’m the most proud of it it continues to be you know just something that opens doors for me  people you know will reach out because of it and so I've had a lot of great conversations, met a lot of great people through it I ended up staying on withTEDx and volunteering as a mentor as a planning you know I was on the planning committee I got involved with another ted organization so it really became a big part of what I was doing I had my kids volunteering for it. It's a great community it's just a great community of people who the people who are putting it together are so passionate about it and then the people that that you know we bring in to do the talks are so diverse and so um interesting and passionate about whatever it is they're talking about yeah i'm on the planning committee this year and unfortunately we had to delay our event until the fall but uh it's just you're sitting around the table and you know we i was talking also earlier that people don't realize that it's all volunteers that run the TEDx events you know it's not like these guys are getting paid and so sometimes things take a little bit longer and as a speaker that can be frustrating to find out where you're at in the process but you have to realize that these are volunteers but they're passionate volunteers and most of them are former speakers as well so you should really be able to do one.

 I have a dream of organizing one in my town at the high school i'd really love to do a youth event to get young people on the stage speaking about things that they are interested and passionate about and giving them that experience at a young age so and i have a daughter at the high school that I you know I have the idea of us working on something like that together so I guess I 'm putting it up figured out there now that it is something i'd really love to be able to do.

We have a local university and I know about half the faculty there from different organizations around town and church and I've thought about approaching them and saying you know why don't you guys host a TEDx for your university same thing it's just once you get it in in your blood it's like this is just an awesome awesome way to share ideas and you just want to keep sharing those ideas that's kind of why I'm doing this summits.

 I love it yeah I love that you're doing this because like i was saying before there are so many people who reach out to me especially through Linkedin they'll reach out and ask you know how they can get on the stage and just or just start sharing that they have an idea that they'd love to do it but haven't really thought about how to get there and so they'll ask for advice so a lot of people are definitely looking for some help on the path to get there.

 So based on that question what what's some advice that you give to to people to help them figure out how to get on that TEDx stage?

I usually direct them to the website because there's an interactive map right on that site where they can find past events and the the um they're usually links to the people who organize the events and so those are the first you know that's the first place I would start is to contact past organizers but they could still be current organizers you know it depends on um on that but uh when i was thinking about doing it here that's exactly what I did I looked for organizers in my area that I could connect with that would give me some advice maybe some help and so I encourage them to use that website as a tool and connect with people they're on the website there's information about how to do a TEDx talk what the guidelines are um so it can you know some people have come to me with an hour-long video yeah and so they have to that's probably the hardest part is editing down into an acceptable time frame which we've talked about changes you know anywhere from 7 to 18 minutes but the editing part is is definitely a challenge and it was for me too I had I had you know pages and pages and pages of what I had written out and it was it was a challenge and it was really uh it was um it was really good for me to go through the process of editing out what was really important and what what would you know kind of tell the story in the best way.

 So you kind of talked about how how much fun and enjoyable the theTEDx process was and and helping with the organization what's some frustrating things that you have seen on your TEDx journey well exactly what you said is that it is largely a group while it is all a group of volunteers and so um leadership has to be really in tune with the team and the speakers so communication is key um there's so much  or there can be so much anxiety on the part of the speaker and so really guiding a speaker through the process is so important and making sure that they are comfortable and that they have everything that they need I mean when I gave my  speech that in that group I really I was treated so well and they had they had a party right before the talk where we were able to meet with donors and sponsors and it was you know it was a vip party it was just a lot of fun but it did it made the people who were speaking feel special and feel like they were a part of something bigger than just themselves getting up on that stage and and that for me was big because I was really nervous I mean I kept saying you know I don't know why I ever thought that this was a great idea I was terri I was to say nervous i was terrified absolutely terrified but it came down to feeling like I had something I  had to say and I needed to get it out and it had to be said and so that was what pushed me out onto the stage as i you know kind of held on tight.

I think most people I know what i've given two of them and both times about halfway through I'm like Ican't do thisIjust can't do it Ican't take this and put it into this and what the second time I'm like you know what I did this the last time why did I do this to myself?

It’s is it's it's scary and it's very  well especially  or in my case I shouldn't say especially but in my case it was a very personal story and it was emotional and so it it was you know a vulnerable place to be in and so it just took a little bit of extra breathing I mean the breath breathing is really what got me through that talk um knowing how to keep myself calm through the situation we were told that we would have a teleprompter and then I think maybe the day before we were told we would not and so um that was frustrating to say the least so I had to really memorize everything and although it was my own story i wanted it to flow in a certain way and i didn't want to forget something um excuse me so I took my sheets of paper of all my notes and I laid them down on the floor and so as I was speaking I was able to just kind of visually look down and guide myself through through the talk.
 I knew where my points were yeah so that worked out but that definitely added to the nerve factor and production.

 I mean there's a frustrating topic right there production just making sure that all the videos uh from each speaker populate and that the sound is good and the cameras and there's so much production that goes into that um that that can be  frustrating with people who are in charge of that part yeah and I think that's the different TEDx events you you see that production level um you know the the certain number of cameras and the the quality of the lighting and everything and you know i was blessed my first talk  was at TEDx Greenville in south carolina they've been doing it for 10 years so they've they really professional when it comes to the video and so a lot of the videos from greenville do very well because of that professionalism on the video so that that does make a big difference when you're trying to select what TEDx event you want to be at you know watch the former videos and you know if it's dark and grainy you're probably going to have dark and grainy when you do yours so definitely consideration right.

What is it that you learned the most from doing a TEDEx talk?

 I mean there were there are a few things one is that personally on a personal level having done that talk and being honest about our situation and what was happening to us it set the precedent for the way that we were able to handle the situation that we were going through in our life so um that was a that was a huge thing it was we were going through wasn't a secret anymore everything was out in the open it was on youtube it was public and so there was no hiding at all and that was a huge freedom that it gave to myself and my family my kids so for that um that was the lesson in in being honest and being authentic and in knowing that in doing so everything you know worked out well and we wereh there was there was no negative that came from from that so that was really good um it was you know it was like a personal challenge just to be able to do that kind of public speaking in that format without audience so it was a it was just a you know kind of a personal challenge and knowing that i had the ability to do that uh just kind of testing my my myself you know.

Did you watch some videos before to kind of learn how to do a TEDx or do you have a favorite video that you you like to to watch or to share with other people?

 I watch I watch I’ve watched so many of them  I do I know Ihave a favorite i'd have to look it up i don't even know there's one that i do share i don't know uh which one it is right now i can't think of which one it is right now but uh i did not do a lot of watching them beforehand i didn't really want to compare myself to other people what other people had done I didn't want to set a bar for myself that I might not feel like I was able to reach I really wanted it to be what what I could do um and so and and that's something that carries through today you know that ted talk was a few years ago but um as I as I do other things in my life I'm very careful not to look at other other people in the industry who are doing what I'm doing and compare myself to them so I try to take in a unique approach to whatever it is I’m doing. let's go ahead and move away from some of the the TEDx stuff and ask more fun questions you ready for that?



Kathy Leckey Sucessfull Storytelling Summit

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One day, Kathy Leckey started making lists on her phone. She’d put down something she wanted to do, but had doubted she could. Did a person, place, or thing trigger a sense of peace in her daily swirl of life? On the list. Did something make her smile, remind her to simply breathe, inspire her to try? Added in. Before she really realized it, Kathy had built the bones of her new workbook, My Self Care Sh*t.

Newly published in February 2022 and available on Amazon and at her website kathyleckey.com, the workbook is filled with prompts that engage participants in releasing codependency by writing down the things that will ultimately carve out healthy boundaries and allow each person to know themselves, enjoy who they are, and truly care for themselves.

Because the reader provides content to complete the workbook, Kathy encourages each to write their name in a blank space under her name on the cover, as her co-author.

“People that are looking for answers and they’re reading books and they’re talking to other people and trying to figure things out on their own, but they’re not asking themselves the questions they’re asking other people,” says Kathy. “The real answers are inside of everybody, and the answers are different for everybody.”

As Kathy is careful to note its opening pages, this workbook is based on opinion and not to be construed as advice of therapist or other medical/mental health professionals. Kathy is a career/personal development coach focused on healing from codependency. Now a North Guilford resident, Kathy had resided for many years in Madison while raising her two daughters and her son.

What is Codependency?

“Codependency is a lot of things, and it’s usually defined by common behaviors that we see in people,” says Kathy. “But for me, the bottom line of it is that codependency is a disconnection from our own self. And so, the healing from codependency is reconnecting, or connecting for the first time, to ourselves.”

Some of those behaviors or beliefs include looking for validation from other people through your job, as a parent, or in a relationship.

“We’re looking to other people to make us feel good about ourselves, because, deep down, we have fears and maybe beliefs that might not be true about ourselves that we’ve just grown up with and may have become a part of our thinking,” she says.

Fear is a big component of codependency, she adds.

“We’re afraid of making mistakes, we’re afraid of disappointing people, we’re afraid of judgment, and it all comes down to not have a strong sense of self and believing in ourselves,” says Kathy.

Boundaries are a big part of codependency, and defining them is part of the healing.

“When we’re struggling with codependency, we have a lack of boundaries—that’s one of the things I talk about in the group coaching I do,” says Kathy. “And when I was doing the group coaching, one of the things I was hearing, over and over again, was, ‘I just don’t know what I want anymore. I don’t know what I like. I don’t know my favorite color.’”

Kathy adds that, while she had started to make lists so that she could know herself better, hearing those comments in her groups helped to her to realize that other people could benefit from the exercises.

“I thought it would be a great tool for them to help figure out who they are again,” she says.

Because everybody’s boundaries, needs, wants and beliefs are different, by completing the exercises, the boundaries which are specific to each person become defined. Kathy is currently working on a book that guides readers through the different topics of codependency, with activities within the chapter based on her group coaching weekly lessons.

Kathy is also a contributing author in three out of four of Scott MacGregor’s popular “Standing O” motivational book series. The books’ essays focus on gratitude for life lessons learned by a wide spectrum of essayists. Kathy has also developed and shared her discussion “The Choices We Make” with youth, including those to whom she spoke during a Tedx talk inBuffalo, New York, in 2014.

Sharing the Work to Develop Self Care

“For me, I started it because I didn’t know myself,” says Kathy of her new My Self Care Sh*t workbook.

Now, she’s excited to share the healing work she developed for herself so that others can benefit. Kathy says she especially hopes the workbook reaches younger women, before codependency make sink into their lives to the point where they’ve “given up their own identity, their own needs and wants for their partner, or their kids, or their job. I would really love for this to reach younger people before that happens to them.”

In an interesting twist, it’s sometimes hard for us to realize that giving so much of ourselves can drain away the need to also care for oneself.

“The things that we do, as givers, are not bad things. They’re wonderful, they’re helpful, they’re great. But the problem is that they are to the extreme of then not taking care of ourselves,” says Kathy.

She adds its like that airplane oxygen mask analogy for self care: The reason you are instructed to put on your mask first, before helping others, is that you won’t be able to help someone else unless you’ve taken care of yourself first.

“I’ve been learning about this for years now,” says Kathy, adding the journey has brought her through efforts including meeting with therapists, poring over books, and trying some alternative therapies.

“I’ve tried a lot of things, but for me, the real, true healing came when I started to learn about and heal from codependency. And that’s why I want to be able to share it with so many people, because it affects us in every area of our life,” says Kathy. “When we’re struggling with codependency, it affects our relationships with other people, with our partners, with our kids, at work, with money, with food—it affects everything.”

Make no mistake: There is a reason this is called a “work” book. Kathy provides a lengthy, comprehensive list of prompts, questions, and exercises for readers to answer.

“It takes time. It’s not going to be filled out in one sitting,” says Kathy. “It’s going to be something that, hopefully, people can use as something to trigger some curiosity, and go back to and fill out as things come for them.”

As someone who has completed the workbook, Kathy says the result, for her, is a sense of “freedom.”

“It feels like freedom to me,” she says. “It feels like anything is possible. In forgiving yourself, in letting go of guilt and shame, there’s freedom.”
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A Self Care Workbook by Kathy Leckey and (Your Name Here)

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Hot yoga has become part of getting #myselfcaresh*t together.

At the end of each class, the teacher turn the lights down while we lay still on our backs for a couple of minutes to rest our bodies and minds.

Usually she will suggest getting into a “comfortable resting pose” but a couple of months ago she said to “get into your final resting place”…

With my eyes closed, I imagined that it was my “final” resting place and had a smile on my face feeling good about my life and where I am now.

But there was one “regret” I had that hadn’t been resolved and that was the relationship with my oldest daughter. It brought tears to my eyes and in that moment I made a commitment to figure out how to repair it.

I could never understand the wedge of tension between us and had become emotionally frustrated by it. I thought couldn’t work on an issue if I didn’t know what it was.

Because she would send her friends to me for advice I knew she respected me, so I knew there was something to work with.

Instead of trying harder, I backed off. I used my healing from codependency to be okay with waiting for her to reach out to me, lowering my expectations, I listening more than talked, stopping sending “helpful suggestions” and basically let her come to me at her own pace.

It worked. And quickly. In the past couple of months I have spent more quality time with her at her invitation than in the past years put together. Now she calls me for advice for her.

I am still not ready to take my final resting place, but I am grateful for the exercise that phrase evoked in me.


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Do you keep hearing that self-care is the answer to everything, but don't know where to start? You are not alone-and surprise...the answer is different for each person. I will help you connect back to yourself to find out what self-care means for you and help you to find simple ways to start practicing it right away. Symptoms of a lack of self-care can look like poor boundaries, trust issues, relationship struggles, people-pleasing, feelings of guilt and shame, exhaustion, anxiety and more. Self-care is not selfish-it allows you to have better relationships at home, at work, with friends, and especially with yourself.

I am…

Keynote Speaker
TEDx speaker (“The Choices We Make”, Kathy Leckey)
TEDx co-organizer & mentor
Author My Self Care Sh*t: The Workbook & companion My Self Care Sh*t: The Blank Journal
Contributing author on gratitude in the Standing O! book series, by Scott MacGregor
Co-Founder & Chief Community Officer of The Outlier Project
Self-Care Coach of “Healing From Codependency”
EFT & TFT Practitioner Certified
Mindfulness Certified
Life Coaching Certified
Law of Attraction Practitioner Certified, Joe Vitale, The Secret
Positive Psychology Certified, University Pennslyvania
B.S. Education with a minor in Behavioral Psychology
SHEro Award recipient

Also me…

Mother of 3 adult children
Divorced & coparenting
From financially devastated to buying my own home and an investment property
Entrepreneur/Multiple jobs
Repaired and rebuilt healthy relationships with my children
From online dating & unhealthy entanglements to healthy relationship to healthy breakup
Friend, sister, daughter…
Grew up in Western New York…Go, Bills!
Lives on the Connecticut Shoreline   

Get Your Self-Care Sh*t Together

Simple every day self-care that works for you.

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Breakups can be emotionally exhausting and painful, especially when our partner was toxic or unhealthy.  You may be feeling like there is something wrong with you or it's all your fault, questioning your decision to leave, questioning your decision to stay, feeling guilty and more.   Learn how to find the lessons and put your relationship in the past.

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Learn where you need boundaries in your life, how to set and enforce them, and not feel guilty about them.

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Forgiveness

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